You should be alert to the beautiful lies in marriage life. Most marriages that are described good or ideal are poison to you; it makes you lose your psychological defense. These ideal marriages only bring you from the reality. You should have a correct understanding of marriage.
Use a rational look at the beautiful fairy tale lies
First women can’t lose yourself in marriage, all of your married life is just a part of your whole life, not all. Whether there is no love or not, you must maintain physical and mental integrity. Most of men have a natural love of trying to make a woman become their own accessories’ trends and he would un-consciously undermine the viability of your independence, even spiritual capabilities. He seems to care about you, and want to take care of you, but you will lose even more.
Correct understanding of marriage
You have to admit that those ideal marriages sound beautiful, but marriage is just a stage in your life course, it may leave you momentarily. Emotions is irrational, marriage is rational. You’d better reserve the inner emotional world, and maintain the freedom of the mind and protect the common interests of the two people.
Best efforts to prepare for the worst
First of all you have to assume that the man who brings you the pain and psychological torture is still being acceptable, or your efforts to retain him seem to funny. Since we regard him as a good man, we can properly display the moral pressure on him. You can also consult a divorce lawyer, you need to prepare for the worst, began to do some consideration on the family property. You need to find a professional to collect evidences, in case marriage comes to dead; you can immediately apply for property preservation. The men who lack of moral training will transfer the property before the divorce and use delaying tactics or promise to give you the number, followed by assets being completely transferred. Survey of the property evidences of relationship is important then.
There are some suggestions for you
1.Maintaining a good image of your body and improving your skin care. Maintaining a cheerful attitude and self-confidence is also very important to exude your own unique charm. Don’t think you have got married and you don’t need to dress yourself any more. Actually no man like a woman sloppy and have no image. It will make men feel torture in hell as to remain beside you. Belittling another woman and look for her afterwards is also not desirable. You can’t also go to the man’s company to look for trouble.
2 You had better not overly depend on the men and let him feels that you can’t live without him. Please the man is not desirable too, in times of crisis women have to maintain your self-esteem.
3 Although there is injustice and resentment in your heart, forgiveness is also very important. If you don’t forgive him that equals to pushes him to another woman.
4 If you do not want to have a lover, you should not look for a masculine friend to talk with sex. Female psychology at this time is very fragile, easily moved by the concern of another man; this would have the very complex emotional issues become more complex.
5 Consulting psychiatrist, especially consult an experienced doctors. Psychological doctor will help you find the most effective ways to achieve settlement and security advices to defend your family. At the same time psychological doctor can help you ease your mood, and make you rebuild marriage confidence, heal wounds, in order to face the man more confident.